Wedding Planning Questions for Couples | Events With Amie Melbourne
Just engaged? Discover the key questions every couple should ask before wedding planning begins, with expert guidance from Events With Amie in Melbourne.
Getting engaged is one of life’s most exciting moments. There’s the joy, the celebrations, and then—almost immediately—the question: “So… where do we start?”
Before you dive into venues, colour palettes, or Pinterest boards, there’s one incredibly important step that often gets overlooked: aligning as a couple. As a Melbourne wedding planner, I’ve seen time and time again how powerful it is when couples take the time to get on the same page before planning begins. It not only makes the process smoother, but ensures your wedding truly reflects both of you.
Here are the key questions every couple should talk through at the very beginning of their wedding planning journey.
What Do We Want Our Wedding to Feel Like?
This is one of the most important questions to start with. Forget the details for a moment and focus on the overall vibe. Do you want something relaxed and informal, or elegant and refined? Intimate and emotional, or big and celebratory?
When couples agree on how they want the day to feel, decisions around styling, venue, and guest experience become far easier. This emotional alignment is often more important than agreeing on colours or flowers.
What Matters Most to Each of Us?
Every couple has different priorities. For one of you, photography might be non-negotiable. For the other, it might be food, music, or having everyone they love in the same room.
Sharing these priorities early helps avoid tension later. When both partners feel heard and respected, compromises feel easier and the planning process stays positive.
What Kind of Guest Experience Do We Want to Create?
Your wedding isn’t just about the two of you—it’s also about the people you’re inviting to celebrate alongside you. Do you want guests dancing all night? Relaxing and mingling? Sharing long conversations over a beautiful meal?
Thinking about the guest experience early influences everything from venue choice and catering style to the overall run of the day.
How Involved Do We Each Want to Be in the Planning?
Wedding planning doesn’t always come naturally to both partners, and that’s completely okay. One of you might love spreadsheets and logistics, while the other prefers creative decisions or wants minimal involvement.
Being honest about your expectations helps avoid resentment and ensures the workload feels balanced. This is also where deciding whether to hire a wedding planner can be a game-changer.
What Is Our Realistic Budget—and What Are We Comfortable Spending?
Talking about money early can feel uncomfortable, but it’s essential. Discussing your total budget, where the funds are coming from, and how flexible you are helps set realistic expectations from the start.
Aligning on budget doesn’t mean sacrificing your dream wedding—it means making intentional decisions that reflect your values and priorities as a couple.
Are There Any Non-Negotiables or Deal-Breakers?
This could be anything from cultural or family traditions to personal boundaries or values. Perhaps one of you feels strongly about a private ceremony, or another wants a child-free celebration.
Addressing these early prevents miscommunication and ensures your wedding feels authentic to who you are as a couple.
How Do We Want to Feel on the Day Itself?
This question often brings everything into focus. Do you want to feel calm, present, and able to soak it all in? Or are you happy being hands-on and involved?
Many couples realise at this stage that having a professional planner or on-the-day coordinator isn’t a luxury—it’s a way to protect their peace and enjoy the moment they’ve worked so hard to create.
Wedding planning isn’t just about organising a beautiful day—it’s about starting your marriage on the same page. Taking the time to ask these questions, listen to each other, and align your vision sets a strong foundation not only for your wedding, but for the journey beyond it.
If you’re at the beginning of your wedding planning journey and want guidance that feels supportive, calm, and genuinely on your side, Events With Amie is here to help. From shaping your vision to bringing every detail together seamlessly, I’ll help you plan a wedding that feels like you, without the overwhelm.
